I threw a party recently. It was a dance party, I invited everyone and they invited all their friends. It was one huge mother effing dance party. As far as the dancing goes, it was pretty tame; all my friends are LDS and don't really do the whole dirty dancing thing. The most raunch it got was a couple of us girls all dancing up on each other to make the boys drool. Well, it wasn't really to make them drool, but we know they did anyway.
Daniel showed up, being one of the first times I've seen him in a long time. We've seen each other at institute and some firesides, but he's been pretty scarce. It doesn't help that we live a good 25 minutes apart and are in different stakes. Holy. Smokes. I don't know what was done differently, but Daniel looked super good. He had on an excellent blue shirt and his hair was slightly done, but not overly stuffed with product (Yes, Aiden, it's called Product) and he just looked well put together. I was slightly dazzled by his ravishingly good looks.
Half way through the party I get a text from Daniel. Conversation went as follows:
Daniel: Sigh a man without isn't a man at all
Leslie: Huh?
Daniel: Kiss me
Leslie: Hahaha, you're in a room full of people.
Daniel: Well that is a shame. I donno where to go.
Leslie: Go out in the front yard on the side of the garage
He went, I snuck out the side door in the garage. He grabbed me, pushed me against the side of the house and kissed me nice and hard. One kiss turned into several, which ended up being a full on standing make out. I don't know if I've mentioned this before, but Daniel is a really good kisser. He gives those type of kisses that don't involve so much tongue that you're practically drowning in the other person's saliva, but just the right amount and they last just long enough. I love kissing him....except when he's trying to stick his hands down my pants.
I'm pretty self conscious about my body (what girl isn't?) and I had just been dancing around a lot, so I was kind of sweaty and Daniel tried to get his hands under my clothes just a little. Boom, shot down! I can get scandalous but I don't let things get crazy. We only made out for about fifteen minutes before heading back inside. It was a good fifteen minutes, though. It kept me busy while Chase decided to vacate the party with some chick.
In a way I feel slightly stupid for allowing myself to give into Daniel's request so easily, but at the same time, we're using each other equally. We both just want a little lip lovin' and know we enjoy the other. For the meantime, I can dig it.
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Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Flirting: To Play At Love
Flirting. We all do it, it's enjoyable, it's playful, it's fun. But what is it? Why do we do it? What does it mean?
My personal definition of flirting is it's a slightly sensual, inviting, teasing way of interacting. The dictionary says flirting is "to play at love." It's lighthearted, sometimes serious, sometimes innocent fun. Flirting is one of the main ways men and women can interact and introduce the possibility of something bigger blossoming. It's hard not to flirt with someone you're into. It's a way to show that person that you are fun, interesting, and clever. I like to think of myself as a master flirt, since I've had ample time and boys to practice. It's an art form, really. It's all about the subtle moves and the subtext underlying the words you use. Once you've master the two individually, the combination of a movement and a simple comment that could mean so much can do a lot to a guy (Or a girl, whichever.)
There's this guy, Chase, with whom I'm good friends. He served in the same mission as Aiden. While Chase was on his mission, his family moved into my stake, so now he's in the same YSA ward as me and Aiden. We hang out on the weekends with big groups (Chase works a summer job about 2 hours south of here, but comes home on the weekends) and it's awesome. He's not the kind of guy you'd see and think, "Oh dang! That is one great looking dude! I want him NOW!" Don't get me wrong, he's attractive, but he's not drop dead gorgeous. He's tall (like, really tall), dark hair, pretty hazel eyes, but he's a little awkward looking. I think that's why I'm attracted to him; I like the awkward boys. Chase is hilarious. I enjoy a good banter and Chase is a good banterer, I could talk to him endlessly. I think it's his wit that makes him that way. Whatever it is, there's something simply irresistible about this guy.
Last weekend Chase came over to my house and we sat in my room on my bed (with the door propped open, my parents were home) and talked. He told me all his woman woes, which are many. He's got chicks throwing themselves at him right and left and he doesn't know how to field them away. He likes this girl who lives in his hometown, a couple states away. She's just barely 18 and his best friend's younger sister, so he's feeling a little hesitant, but he really digs her. I'm the cool platonic girlfriend, so he can tell me all these things and feel like we're on safe ground, stuck in the friend zone. In fact, Chase wants me to act as his secretary of dating so I can help him get rid of all the unworthy girls and send all the hot ones on to him. I'm flatter that he would trust me that way, but his shallowness is ridiculous. He's got a type: tall, skinny, leggy, cheerleader girls. I'm not tall, not a cheerleader type, I've got killer legs, but they're shot,and I'm not the skinniest (I'm not overweight, but I'm not rail thin.) So the friend zone. I'm stuck there, probably for awhile.
Where's the correlation between flirting and Chase? We flirt a lot. It goes right along with the banter that goes on. We joke around that we're almost dating and he calls me Babe all the time. It's supposed to be a strategy to get girls who he doesn't want to like him to think he's unavailable, but I think I'm enjoying it way too much. With the whole Tyson thing fresh in my mind, having something fun to throw my attention into is such a relief. I like being able to take my mind off of something so negative that makes me feel like crap and focus on something that's fun and lighthearted and doesn't really call for much effort or commitment.
In short, I like flirting with Chase. I like pretending to be his almost girlfriend, but not having to be committed. I like not having to think about Tyson all the time. We'll have to wait and see what happens, though. Chase and I will both be going on to BYUI in the Fall, so we'll see if I can progress out of the friend zone.
My personal definition of flirting is it's a slightly sensual, inviting, teasing way of interacting. The dictionary says flirting is "to play at love." It's lighthearted, sometimes serious, sometimes innocent fun. Flirting is one of the main ways men and women can interact and introduce the possibility of something bigger blossoming. It's hard not to flirt with someone you're into. It's a way to show that person that you are fun, interesting, and clever. I like to think of myself as a master flirt, since I've had ample time and boys to practice. It's an art form, really. It's all about the subtle moves and the subtext underlying the words you use. Once you've master the two individually, the combination of a movement and a simple comment that could mean so much can do a lot to a guy (Or a girl, whichever.)
There's this guy, Chase, with whom I'm good friends. He served in the same mission as Aiden. While Chase was on his mission, his family moved into my stake, so now he's in the same YSA ward as me and Aiden. We hang out on the weekends with big groups (Chase works a summer job about 2 hours south of here, but comes home on the weekends) and it's awesome. He's not the kind of guy you'd see and think, "Oh dang! That is one great looking dude! I want him NOW!" Don't get me wrong, he's attractive, but he's not drop dead gorgeous. He's tall (like, really tall), dark hair, pretty hazel eyes, but he's a little awkward looking. I think that's why I'm attracted to him; I like the awkward boys. Chase is hilarious. I enjoy a good banter and Chase is a good banterer, I could talk to him endlessly. I think it's his wit that makes him that way. Whatever it is, there's something simply irresistible about this guy.
Last weekend Chase came over to my house and we sat in my room on my bed (with the door propped open, my parents were home) and talked. He told me all his woman woes, which are many. He's got chicks throwing themselves at him right and left and he doesn't know how to field them away. He likes this girl who lives in his hometown, a couple states away. She's just barely 18 and his best friend's younger sister, so he's feeling a little hesitant, but he really digs her. I'm the cool platonic girlfriend, so he can tell me all these things and feel like we're on safe ground, stuck in the friend zone. In fact, Chase wants me to act as his secretary of dating so I can help him get rid of all the unworthy girls and send all the hot ones on to him. I'm flatter that he would trust me that way, but his shallowness is ridiculous. He's got a type: tall, skinny, leggy, cheerleader girls. I'm not tall, not a cheerleader type, I've got killer legs, but they're shot,and I'm not the skinniest (I'm not overweight, but I'm not rail thin.) So the friend zone. I'm stuck there, probably for awhile.
Where's the correlation between flirting and Chase? We flirt a lot. It goes right along with the banter that goes on. We joke around that we're almost dating and he calls me Babe all the time. It's supposed to be a strategy to get girls who he doesn't want to like him to think he's unavailable, but I think I'm enjoying it way too much. With the whole Tyson thing fresh in my mind, having something fun to throw my attention into is such a relief. I like being able to take my mind off of something so negative that makes me feel like crap and focus on something that's fun and lighthearted and doesn't really call for much effort or commitment.
In short, I like flirting with Chase. I like pretending to be his almost girlfriend, but not having to be committed. I like not having to think about Tyson all the time. We'll have to wait and see what happens, though. Chase and I will both be going on to BYUI in the Fall, so we'll see if I can progress out of the friend zone.
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