BYU-Idaho has the reputation for having way more girls than guys. The ratio was something like 3:1 when I started school here. Despite rumors that it's more like 1.5:1 now, I don't believe it's gotten any better. Nearly every class I have is overfilled with marriage hungry girls, claiming to be spinsters at age nineteen.
I don't know if it's just the actual ratio of girls to guys, but I feel as though the whole dating atmosphere here is a giant game of which-girl-can-be-more-aggressive. Let's face it, if you aren't the type of girl to go hunt down the unwed men in your classes and practically force yourself on them, you're chances of happening upon a friendship with a male who is unattached is slim. Part of that, however, I believe is attributed to the guys, but I'll touch on that later.
My mother taught me while growing up that women weren't meant to pursue. She told me that I needed to calm the heck down, back off the poor boys, let them man up and come to me. I've never been able to get the hang of that. I am a go-getter. I see something (or someone) I want and I get poised into attack mode...until I sense competition. As soon as another girl steps into the picture, I lose all motivation. I don't want to compete with another girl, I don't want to have to play the one-up game, I would rather not get the guy and fall to the way-side rather than compete. Part of that is because I've lost many times to "the other girl", part of that is because suddenly it's not fun anymore, the chase loses all appeal.
Something about pursing a guy is intriguing. It's fun to be flirty and silly and giddy. It's fun to tease and be interesting to him. But still, it's not fun to try and be the better girl. I want a guy to like me for me and have him pick me over all the other girls, not because I was trying, but because he genuinely likes me. I don't really think that's unreasonable.
That being said, I do feel like being here in Idaho is a better dating scene for me. I don't want to get caught up in those competitions, though. I want to be able to have fun and go out on dates and enjoy the company of men without having to worry about whether or not I'm impressing them more than the other girl they were just talking to. It's exhausting.
Now, boys, here's some advice to you: BE A MAN. Take the lead, ask that cute girl in your class out even if you've only seen her from across the room. Do cheesy things like passing notes or using silly pick up lines. Although cheesy, we girls live for those kinds of things. We write them down in our journals and text ALL of our girlfriends about them.
Just because the girls here at BYUI are cutthroat doesn't mean you should slack off in your duties as a male. Don't get lazy and think, "Why should I ask girls out when there are so many throwing themselves at me?" We're doing it only because we want to get to you before the other girl does. I'm sure you'll have better luck dating if you're the one singling out the girls you want to get to know rather than only meeting and dating the girls who jump into your path with their marriage bell blaring.
Girls: Stop being so aggressive! Let things happen, be friendly, be cute, be flirty.
Boys: Be a man. Ask a lady you think is cute out.