I read a tweet today saying how all the guys on this campus go for the stupid, 18 year old, freshman girls. It is SO TRUE. I don't know what it is about naive girl-children that makes the boys at this school lose everything.
Please, will someone enlighten me? Are you men afraid of older girls, girls who've had more education, who have goals and motivation? Do you all just want 18 year old baby-making machines without brains in their heads?
Don't get me wrong, not all 18 year old girls are like that, but I see the vast majority of the guys going for the girls who fit the young, family studies majors mold. It drives me crazy.
EDIT:: I don't mean to lump everyone who is a family studies major into one category. On the contrary, a few of my best friends are family studies majors or minors, there's nothing wrong with the major. There is something wrong with the guys at this school who only want young girls who seem to be planning on being homemakers. Again, I'm not knocking girls who plan on being homemakers. I plan on being a homemaker, allowing my husband to be the breadwinner of the family.
I'm simply creating a stereotype for the girls guys at this school go for.
They're "fresh meat."
ReplyDeleteThey like to catch them before they are 'too set in their ways'. Gag me! Isn't it the worst? I do have to say though, I am a family studies major and I am doing it because I enjoy it. I am learning a lot and there are other girls like me. So not everyone in that major has a head full of rocks.
ReplyDeleteI had a very enlightening and frank conversation with my Dad about this tonight. He told me to keep a wary eye out for the smart, shy ones. The ones who speak when they have something to say, versus speak because they just have to say something. I think often they're hard to detect because the outgoing, sometimes obnoxious, center-of-the-room "Look, I'm speaking in my mission language!" ones overshadow them.
ReplyDeleteWhenever I get a case of the lonelies, which is almost daily, I remind myself of my favorite scene in the movie Juno, when Juno comes to her Dad and asks him if it's even possible that two people can fall in love and stay together forever. This is his reply:
" Look, in my opinion, the best thing you can do is find a person who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you, the right person is still going to think the sun shines out your ass. That's the kind of person that's worth sticking with".
For better or worse, for sweatshirt Mondays to limp-bangs-from-this-damn-wind-always-pushing-them-the-wrong-way days. He's the one person you think to call when you're so happy that you just have to share your bit of sunshine with someone. He'll be there when your first baby looks into your eyes, and he'll be in the recliner next to you when your hair is whispy white and your phone buttons are the size of playing cards. He'll be your security, your comedian, your breath of fresh air. Keep an eye out. God knows he's out there.
"stupid, 18 year old, motivation-less freshman girl" here. Maybe older guys go for us because, yes. they want someone "naive" to mold. Or maybe it's because the older ones are bitter and intense. Either way. Atitudes like this are why I stopped dating RM's. too much drama, too many marriage hungry guys and too many fire-breathing 20-something girls ready to rip the engagement ring right off my finger. Lighten up, girlfriend. Have some fun.
ReplyDeleteI think too many RM and too many RM-aged-ish girls are waaay too marriage hungry. Freshmen (guys and girls) tend to be more carefree about relationships. After freshmen year people start to take themselves too seriously and put pressure on themselves to figure out if they've met they're EC after the third date. It's OK to date someone for a few months without knowing. Honestly I think it takes more than few months until you can really know for sure. Epiphany here - I don't know how you're doing with the whole Kirk thing, but I hope you don't beat yourself up thinking it was a waste of time. It wasn't. Just because he wasn't the one doesn't mean you can't appreciate the good things about the relationship. By dating him now you know that you don't have to settle for one of any of the BYU douche bags that are out there. You can have a great guy who treats you the way you want.
DeleteSorry, I know your post was just meant to be a rant, and I laughed at it cause it's pretty true. But "stupid 18 year old's" comment above me made me think about it a little deeper for some reason. Hope it helps.
just gonna say that I have learned my lesson. Freshman girls... they be crazy. I dated a freshman for a month, and things seemed good, for awhile, then she said that she wasn't ready for a serious relationship and I put up with an awkward "open relationship" thing for another 3 weeks. She was open I wasn't but I put up with it for that long. eventually I just had dinner with her and we went for a walk, and talked about it, and we broke up. It can be done civilly and without drama. It's simple. Just let the feels flow.
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