Here's how I met Sam: It was Christmas break and all was well, though slightly uneventful. My friends invited me out one night to go watch a movie or two to get into the Christmas spirit. I knew everyone there, they were all from my singles ward at home, but then Frank (remember him from forever ago?) showed up with Sam. Here is a guy who, as it turns out, goes to BYUI and served in the same mission as Frank. His family recently moved to the area and Frank decided to help him get to know some people while he was home, even though he's heading back to Rexburg in January.
We hit it off, joked around a bit, and became friends. I have to admit that dating wasn't on my radar that night; I was simply enjoying the company of sone friends. I didn't think anything of it when Sam friend requested me on Facebook a couple days later. That's what our generation does, right? We meet someone and then we Facebook friend them and stalk their page so we can learn everything we know about them.
The day after Christmas Sam popped up on my FB chat asking about my holiday (which was great, by the way). He eventually said, "My Internet is really crappy. Would you mind if we texted instead?" That sly dog.
By texting Sam meant talking ALL NIGHT. If I didn't respond to a text within ten minutes, he sent another one. He kept working things like, "you are going to make some guy very lucky one day" and "you are too cute to have not attracted a guy yet. And you have cute winks" and "1-100 what are my chances?" This kind of forwardness makes me a little uncomfortable and awkward. He's a nice guy, so I didn't want to shoot him down, but geeze Louise! Don't you think that's a little bit of overkill? Not to mention Frank let it slip to me that Sam just recently got out of a relationship. Rebound much?
He asked me out to dinner and I said yes. It's only fair to give him a chance, particularly because we do get along really well. You never know what could happenen. At this point I'm not seeking anything out, but I'm not opposed to it.
Showing posts with label first date. Show all posts
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Saturday, December 29, 2012
Sunday, July 15, 2012
All Smiles
This weekend I went on a date.
I didn't know him very well, it's been kind of random the interaction we've had. We talked in the library, we've exchanged a few texts over the past couple months, I all but forgot he exists. His name is Kirk, he's from the area I'm from, but I never knew him back home. I was feeling bored this weekend, as was he, so we decided to get together and spend time together for the first time pretty much ever. I think I was more nervous for this than my date with Aaron, though I had more to be nervous about with him. I can't really explain it other than I was excited and nervous and anxious for the date to happen.
When he picked me up, we went to G's Dairy and got ice cream before heading to Smith park to toss the frisbee around and talk a bit. I've said it before, but there's nothing wrong with going to the park on a date. I've been to them a lot recently and it's been kind of nice doing something lowkey as a first date rather than something overly planned like dinner, then a movie, then hanging out at someone's apartment, then going on a walk before saying goodnight. It's great to have a whole day date, fellas, but maybe not until you really know the girl. First date? Remember to just KISS. No, not plant one on her, I mean Keep It Simple, Stupid. Don't over plan a first date.
Alas, I digress... Back to Kirk and Smith park. It was really fun. We ate our ice cream and talked about our families and our hobbies. I felt like family came up more than usual and I kept finding myself telling story after story about my parents. Weird, but kind of nice. My parents are the bomb, I love them. It was so easy to laugh and get to know Kirk better. His questions for me were interesting and things I hadn't ever really thought about. I found myself telling him things I don't normally bring up on a first date. Occasionally our hands would brush and I felt a surge of butterflies rip through my stomach. It was such a perfect day, you have no idea.
After a couple hours he took me home and asked if he could walk me to the door and insisted that he get the car door for me (I love that. I'm a sucker for a gentleman.) When we got to my front door he gave me a good, slightly lingering hug, and said, "I had a really good time with you. I'd like to see you again, maybe this next week. May I call or text you?" Of course, Kirk. You may call on me as much as you like!
Shortly after he left I got a text message from him telling me again that he enjoyed our time together. Que more butterflies.
Some of you may pause and beg the question, "What about Jake? What about Aaron?" I haven't spoken to Aaron in over a week. He's dropped off the face of the planet. He reads this blog (or does on occasion) so he should be aware that I don't know what his deal is, what he wants out of this, whether or not he just wanted to make out with someone or if he was genuinely interested in a relationship. Either way, I'm not going to go out of my way to make something work with someone who doesn't return the favor. Sorry, Aaron. You're a good guy, I'm sure you'll find an awesome girl you can't get enough of.
I decided this past week that I'm not going to even lead Jake on a little bit anymore. He's got too much baggage going on, I don't even want to attempt to deal with that. He needs more time to get over his divorce, he needs to not cling to the first (okay, second) girl that comes along. There's a girl out there for him, she's just not me.
I'm not banking on anything happening with Kirk. I'm interested, though. He's very...normal. Interesting, but normal. I like normal. It's a good thing. We'll see!
I didn't know him very well, it's been kind of random the interaction we've had. We talked in the library, we've exchanged a few texts over the past couple months, I all but forgot he exists. His name is Kirk, he's from the area I'm from, but I never knew him back home. I was feeling bored this weekend, as was he, so we decided to get together and spend time together for the first time pretty much ever. I think I was more nervous for this than my date with Aaron, though I had more to be nervous about with him. I can't really explain it other than I was excited and nervous and anxious for the date to happen.
When he picked me up, we went to G's Dairy and got ice cream before heading to Smith park to toss the frisbee around and talk a bit. I've said it before, but there's nothing wrong with going to the park on a date. I've been to them a lot recently and it's been kind of nice doing something lowkey as a first date rather than something overly planned like dinner, then a movie, then hanging out at someone's apartment, then going on a walk before saying goodnight. It's great to have a whole day date, fellas, but maybe not until you really know the girl. First date? Remember to just KISS. No, not plant one on her, I mean Keep It Simple, Stupid. Don't over plan a first date.
Alas, I digress... Back to Kirk and Smith park. It was really fun. We ate our ice cream and talked about our families and our hobbies. I felt like family came up more than usual and I kept finding myself telling story after story about my parents. Weird, but kind of nice. My parents are the bomb, I love them. It was so easy to laugh and get to know Kirk better. His questions for me were interesting and things I hadn't ever really thought about. I found myself telling him things I don't normally bring up on a first date. Occasionally our hands would brush and I felt a surge of butterflies rip through my stomach. It was such a perfect day, you have no idea.
After a couple hours he took me home and asked if he could walk me to the door and insisted that he get the car door for me (I love that. I'm a sucker for a gentleman.) When we got to my front door he gave me a good, slightly lingering hug, and said, "I had a really good time with you. I'd like to see you again, maybe this next week. May I call or text you?" Of course, Kirk. You may call on me as much as you like!
Shortly after he left I got a text message from him telling me again that he enjoyed our time together. Que more butterflies.
Some of you may pause and beg the question, "What about Jake? What about Aaron?" I haven't spoken to Aaron in over a week. He's dropped off the face of the planet. He reads this blog (or does on occasion) so he should be aware that I don't know what his deal is, what he wants out of this, whether or not he just wanted to make out with someone or if he was genuinely interested in a relationship. Either way, I'm not going to go out of my way to make something work with someone who doesn't return the favor. Sorry, Aaron. You're a good guy, I'm sure you'll find an awesome girl you can't get enough of.
I decided this past week that I'm not going to even lead Jake on a little bit anymore. He's got too much baggage going on, I don't even want to attempt to deal with that. He needs more time to get over his divorce, he needs to not cling to the first (okay, second) girl that comes along. There's a girl out there for him, she's just not me.
I'm not banking on anything happening with Kirk. I'm interested, though. He's very...normal. Interesting, but normal. I like normal. It's a good thing. We'll see!
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